Is this person the one!

As a Christian single, perhaps dating this person for a while, I want to know, "is this who God has in store for me?"  Well first off, there are the negotiables and non negotiables. Negotiables, I can't advise you with.  You have you're own preferences, prejudices, etc.  This includes physical appearance, personality traits, interests.  My personal take is, God gave that person a certain physical appearance that they were born with.  So as long as they look like the bath and groom themselves on a daily basis, and do a modest attempt to keep healthy and don't have horns growing out of their head, I will usually be open minded to them.

So now that the superficial stuff is out of the way, how do I know this person is a legit Christian, and I'll have a God honoring marriage with them?  Most people ask themselves, are they open to going to church every week, do they pray, do they read their bible, do they serve at church?  All these are legitimate results of Christian faith, but can be masked from human eyes.

One of the things that Christians recognize is, are they a sinner needing daily repentance?  Repentance is the act of examining of ones own desires/actions, and changing that direction to God's desires and actions, which is a result of Lordship.  Christians believe Jesus Christ is "Lord" and "Savior."  Many "Christians" believe Jesus as "Savior" but not as "Lord."  Lord means, one must change and their actions and obey their Lord.  The only way to obey the Lord is to know and have a relationship with the Lord.  Fruits of obeying the Lord, changes because of convictions based off the bible.   

Can I get married to any Christian person?  This is a difficult question, but I believe you must ask yourself, does this person put me in a better position to deepen my relationship with God, or will put me in a position to pull me further away from God.  This does not mean perfection or how long this person is a professing Christian, as we all have fallen short.  It does mean, praying to the holy spirit and asking, "does this person put me in a better position to deepen my relationship with God, or will put me in a position to pull me further away from God."

Feel free to post questions!

What is the difference between christian dating and "normal" dating?

The difference between Christian dating vs. normal dating is very different.  Dating from a Christian perspective, is solely influenced by biblical principles of loving one another, rather than dating for a simple selfish point of view.  It comes from a perspective of, if it doesn't work out, who cares about that other person POV.  A christian perspective of dating includes, honoring the other person despite if it works out or not.

eg.  not stringing someone along, just b/c your lonely, being honest and direct with your intentions rather than beat around the bush

Common Questions a Christian might ask?

Some of the common questions one might ask, aka FAQ?


- What is the difference between christian dating and "normal" dating?
- How do I know I'm ready to date as a Christian?
- How do I know who God wants me to date? Does God have only 1 person in store for me in this world?
- I've been dating, but she's not as perfect as I'd like, not sure if God wants me to get married to her or not?
- How do I properly ask a girl/guy out as a Christian?
- Should I be dating since I'm not going to be married anytime soon? (still in school etc)

Real Christian dating 101

Hello I have planned on writing this blog for quite some time and recognize if I don't start now, I may never do this.  I was inspired to start this blog because many of my single friends are having quite a bit of difficulty in the topic of true Christian dating and what really honors God when it comes to dating.  I have had my fair share of Christian relationships and believe I have wisdom that can help Christian singles.

Who is this blog for? Those who accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, and have recognized the bible is 100% true and will be obedient to it.
Who is this blog NOT for? Those who do not believe in the bible, as what I am saying will be foolishness to you.  If you do not believe in the bible, you will not understand nor desire the principles of the Godly truth.

The way it works, I will either answer a question from one of my readers / friends or discuss a general principle on Christian dating.   Please post questions if you have any.  Thank you for reading.